Christmas Hair

Wow it has been almost 3 weeks.  Time flies when you are having fun and life is good and CHRISTMAS was here.  So I'm pretty much a bah-humbug kinda person.  Not really into the whole Christmas thing because Christmas means Winter and Winter means COLD and I HATE COLD!  Well this year the week before Christmas it got up to almost 70 degrees and I loved it.  I enjoyed this Christmas, I tried to think about the small things, enjoy the time with family although it was short, enjoy party time with my friends although it was short.  Did have an awesome engagement party on Dec 23rd with lots of friends and good to see them over Christmas break.  Not really much of a break anymore, more like a Christmas long weekend.  Oh how I miss the times when you get like 3 weeks after exams and before you had to be back at school/college... those were the days.
I hate to say my best Christmas story is a not so nice one, but it ends up good and could only happen to our loud talking family.  So I have a sister that has a new hairstyle when she came home for Christmas, was a little bit of a shocker.  She had long blonde flowing curls the last time I saw her, now long straight black with straight across bangs.... shocker.  She can wear any hair style and still look good, but it was just the shock of change.  Well it started with my mom saying it wasn't her most flattering look, can always count on mom for honesty.  Then we take a car ride on Christmas eve to my dad's and on the 20 minute ride Jane I piss Julia off so much that she refuses to speak to us....Great, just great on Christmas....we know if our dad gets wind of this it's going to be bad.  So we put on our happy faces and gather round for some present opening.  Well Julia get these Glitter "Tranny" shoes, she said those my words not sure exactly, but they were out there.  She puts them on and says she is wearing them to church for xmas eve service... and I simply respond with "well no one will notice your hair".  Ohhhh wrong time for that, it erupts again the upset-ness (new word), yelling, more yelling by my dad telling and us to be quiet and we are so mean.... yeah telling a Royall girl to be quiet it like saying please continue to OVER TALK EVERYONE ELSE UNTIL OUR POINT IS PROVED... yep and that is what happened between my dad and sister for a few moments, quite entertaining.  So we settle down have dinner get things back on track apoligies, accepted apoligies and try to remember the xmas S-P-I-R-I-T! 
So we go to church and sit with our aunt, uncle and great aunt who doesn't hear very well and speaks loudly as her normal voice.  Oh no she's spotted it, the hair question is about to come out of her mouth and she turns to Julia and says "what did you do to your hair" (where everyone can hear), no real response, so she then turns to me and says "it's hideous, does everyone else like it but me" fighting back laughter I lie and say "yes", Julz leans over and says "NO, and that is not very CHRIST like of you to say"....oh man really holding back the laughter.  Then out of all things, when we sing silent night at the end and all light our candles, I got the fake kiddie light candle and it didn't even work, guess that is what I get for being mean to my sister.

But all love has been restored, hair color has not been restored, but I'm more used to it now and it's her hair and she can do what she wants.  I'm having the opposite problem I don't like my hair cut and everyone loves it or they are LYING!!! So be truthful to your friends if they have bad hair, but not TOO truthful!

Happy Holidays all!



Just kidding



Here's her beautiful hair!



mini beer, mini haircut





Ballons in a blanket or something like that?

As many people are getting ready for Christmas and saving to spend money and buy presents I like to think this is as the BEGINNING.  The BEGINNING of Jesus' life yes and also the BEGINNING OF wedding season, soon after the new year begins the showers, bachelorette parties, rehearsal dinners and WEDDINGS are here sooner than you realize.  Although I said this blog isn't about weddings and babies but other things in life.  It seems my life is about my friends weddings, who is engaged, when are their parties when are there weddings, where are we staying, who are we taking, are we getting our hair done, our make-up done, etc. 

So things started a little early this year with two Christmas engagement parties.  Which is great for me because I'm kinda a scrooge and could do without all this Christmas stuff, but am excited about the parties.  I tell myself every year I'm not going to get so involved, I'm not going to throw a party/shower etc and every year it comes that time to plan and something inside me screams ME ME ME ME please let ME ME ME plan something for you.  I know how bad I stress out, how pissed I get at people that don't want to help and how I wish I was just at home getting ready for the party like everyone else, but yet I always volunteer.  It was a great party, had a great time.  But the days events leading up might not seem so.  We were supposed to get in at 2pm to decorate for a 7pm party, got a call we can't get in until 3, supposed to meet the girls at 2, can't meet til 230 (no biggie because we can't get in til 3 now).  So I decided to go get Balloons early, go to a store other than my usual because it's closer.   In this store if you weigh more that 100 lbs you would have trouble fitting down the isles in this store, plus there were lots of over 100's in there.  I was only looking for BALLOONS, how hard could that be.  Go to the party isle... NOPE.  Go to decoration isle...NOPE.  excuse me excuse excuse me as I pass not 100lb people with my not 100lb butt.  Still no BALLOONS.  Finally to the register where now all the people in the store are standing and one check out.  I just NEED GOLD and SILVER BALLOONS... finally make my way to the front, only person in the store that is white besides me is the cashier.  I ask her do you have gold and silver balloons, NOPE, we just have a mixed pack with all different colors, does that pack have gold and silver in it, not sure.... THANKS, BUT NO THANKS.   So I wiggle my not 100lb butt out of there, head to the store next door, where the lady was so nice, filled up all my balloons for 99 cents each, tied them with coordinating ribbon and bagged them for me.  THANK YOU KROGER LADY ....and you SUCK DOLLAR TREE.
So I made it home, we decorated, came home got ready. Burned not one but two batches of pigs in a blanket (and if you have to ask what that is like the yankee in my office, you don't deserve to know), finally an edible batch...SCORE.  Hair is doing good, THANK GOD, make-up good, dress BORROWED (SCORE, money saver) shoes great!
Party is an awesome time, drinks, food and fun times with friends.  And the saga continues next weekend with another engagement party, hopefully not nearly as stressful.
So Merry Christmas, Happy New Year and Happy Wedding Season!!

Making Moves

This day in age ladies we've got to MAKE MOVES.  Whether it's making a move on a guy, movin' up at work or movin' our butts to the gym.  I'm convinced it is all about the moves.

So there's a hottie, for some reason guys these days think since you are independent and can provide for yourself you would also like to ask guys out...NOPE!  But maybe if you don't want to be single forever we should invest in making some moves.  Maybe we can ask for digits, we can shoot a text (not 20 unanswered) or suggest coffee/drinks.  These are little moves that women these days just need to get used to.  I know it sucks ladies, where is that prince charming that rides up on his white horse or range rover, ask for directions, your phone number and your hand in marriage in one convo..ahhhhhh.  Sounds perfect to me. 

Yeah at work gotta make some moves, have to bust your butt to show you really want the job and you are willing to work hard.  Because guess what there is someone else waiting in line for that job that has been sitting at home on unemployment and ready to show how hard they can work.  So leave the drama with yo mama and move your little butt up that corporate ladder.

NOW the really hard one, moving your BUTT, literally getting your ass in shape.  Ladies guys don't like a lazy slob (me these days) they want a hottie on their arm.  So get your butt moving at the gym, around the neighborhood, to Wii dance or any other cardio activity and keep that butt cute enough for the fellas check out.

So get out there and MAKE MOVES!!!!

--Anyone wanna work out, I need motivation...haha

Planksgiving

Anyone ever fell like walking the plank with they have to be around their family for too long.  PLANKSGIVING!!!  Just kidding I love my family and love being around them.  I was watching this show where the town had an old folk tale of how a hurricane washed away the town and the people had no crops/food or anything for Thanksgiving.  Some pirates came to shore and shared their riches with the townspeople and since they had a tradition every year PLANKSGIVING.  Everyone dresses up in pirate gear, they gather at the town commons and have a big meal all together.  It looked like so much fun.  So I was wondering if there are other town or family traditions out there.  With my family, we go to my Nannie's (dad's mom) for lunch every year since I was born.  Eats the traditionals, turkey, stuffing etc.  It's great to always sit around her antique table with all the old family photos, hand made napkins and table clothes.  Real silver that was polished, eating off china and always interesting fruit filled center piece, with the Pilgrims peeking in!  Then head to Mt Olive, for dinner with Grandma and Papa (mom's parents) with aunts, uncles and cousin and a new edition Evie (will be 3 in Jan).  She is the pure entertainment.  See on both sides the youngest grandchild is 24 years old and the great grandchild is 3yrs old.  So we basically sit around for hours just watching that child.  It's so great, because we don't get to see her that much.  We always have for dinner venison(deer meat) that my granddad usually killed and grilled for us, chicken salad, veggies, ham biscuits and pickles.  It would not be the same if anything changed.  But this year for lunch the next day we went to WILBUR'S BBQ...yummmmmmmmm.  It is great BBQ, we went family style with our order and it was well worth it.  So 3 huge meals, with huge family and huge FUN!!
So hope you had more of a THANKSGIVING, than a PLANKSGIVING and learn to enjoy time with family, because they won't always be there.  And remember some people don't have any family to spend time with, SO ENJOY that you do!
Happy Holidays!

Old enough to know better, too young to care!

Anyone every heard the song by Blake Shelton "Some Beach"..... some beach somewhere.  Yeah right now that is where I wish I was.  Actually a lot of times I wish I was there.
So yesterday was a great football game, CLEMSON vs NCSU, #7 CLEMSON got beat by unranked NCSU... I had a blast, one of the best games I have been to.  My friend who had just moved was home unpacking and decorating and I got to sit with her husband, father and friends in the game.  They are great seats and I have always loved when I've gotten to sit with them in past.  Her little 3rd grade cousin was there and sitting in front of me and we kept high five-ing on all the good plays.  It was me and "the guys" and just had a blast watching the game, sitting with people who wanted to watch the game and were excited about the game.  Tailgating was great, went with 5 friends had a great spread of food, drinks, without fail jello shots showed up too!  And I have a red finger this am to prove that I did partake.
But then someone mentioned going out...out out, like out on the town, out to bars, shots, drinks and dancing.  Of course I was up for it, the JELLO SHOTS made me do it.  We had a blast, dancing bar hopping, singing, life chats, sitting in a planter, drunk texting..etc. You know how this goes.  This is where the too old to know better too young to care comes in.  Ok I'm too old to go drinking all day at football game, rally through and stay out til 1am.  I'm too old to take several jello shots at the football game. I'm too old to say 'Yes sir" when friends dad says take a swig of this, too old to say 'yes sir' twice to swigging moonshine at football game.  Too old to take shots at the bar, too old to go bar hopping, too old to be sitting in a planter at 1am waiting for a cab, too old to sleep in.  I'm too young to care about how ALL OF THE ABOVE MAKES ME FEEL IN THE AM!!!! aggggggg.  So still try and act like I'm so young I can do all of the above and still function on Sunday. I don't wanna be old and go home after the game and sleep, I still wanna be young and go out with my friends and get crazy sometimes.
See I think family and kids keeps you from doing all this, so please someone give me some family and kids and keep this old lady under CONTROL!!!!

I need to be benched, NOT MVP

Have a Holly Jolly Christmas

Hey people does anyone know we are in a RECESSION?  I mean I know everyone wants gifts and it's nice to get presents, but if you didn't already know I'm poor.  And pretty much the last thing I want to do is go spend my hard earned money on YOU when I can barely pay MY OWN bills.  So this Christmas everyone should be encouraged to just do nice stuff for other people.  I mean donate money, donate time, donate items you don't need any more.  Everyday and I do mean EVERYDAY when I'm complaining about being poor and not having money to do anything, I think REALLY HOLDEN REALLY??????  I mean even though I struggle in my life to get it where I wish it could be, there are tons people who have it a lot worse than me.  Some who made themselves that way, some who did not.  So next time you are thinking about the designer purse you want so bad or that brand name clothing, think about the people who just want a coat or a pair of shoes or food for their kids and maybe give a little. 
For everyone to whom much is given, of him shall much be required.  Luke 12:48.   --I did know the verse, but did not the exact location in Luke.  But the point is still it is something that resonates with me and so should with all of you.

Stop thinking about all the North Face, Prada, Gucci, David Yurman you are adding to your Christmas list and try and remember if just for a moment the meaning of Christmas.  And how maybe at this time of year if not throughout the year, try and think of helping someone else.

Here are some of my fav groups to donate/volunteer for.  Check them out if I inspired you, if you are interested in donating this season.  I'm sure your parents would be much more appreciative of a donation in their name, than something you bought them that they don't need.
Happy Holidays as they begin!

Cystic Fibrosis- my sister lost her best friend Tracey Peel to this disease
http://www.cff.org/Chapters/carolinas/

Eastern NC- Multiple Sclerosis-- My friend Lee Laughinghouse who passed away in 2004, mother has MS.
http://www.nationalmssociety.org/chapters/NCT/index.aspx

The Miracle League of Triangle-- I love to volunteer here, because I want every kid to know the enjoyment of sports and team activities, something I was blessed with that many are not.
http://www.miracleleagueofthetriangle.com/


Food Banks at local Churches.  Many people use churches for resources, not just homeless and poor, but new people in town, people trying to get back on their feet.  Just buy a couple of extra cans at the grocery and drop them off on your way home.

Local Health Clinics need simple supplies at OTC meds!!!  Something easy and cheap that we take for granted just being able to throw down $10 when we have a headache.

And if think you have it bad, read about this family.  I have no idea who they are, but were inspired by their story and their son's disease.  I have never seen anything like it.  People are donating ornaments for this family's tree.
http://randycourtneytripproth.blogspot.com/

Perception is the key

Sometimes as we get older maybe we realize we are the ones that need to change, change our stubborn ways, change the way people perceive us.  So maybe I think I'm this awesome fun girl, with great stories, always up for a laugh and new adventure.  But have you to really examine if that is how other people also see you. 

I think as I get older I want to be more conservative, go out less, drink less, be more conscious of what I'm eating, stop exhausting myself to be a part of everything.  See when the weekend used to come around you would chat with your friends about upcoming weekend plans.... they would go something like this.  Work/School/Unemployment..grab some dinner somewhere, maybe have a drink, go home get ready, go to friends house, have lots or free drinks, cab, bar, more drinks, maybe late night stop for food on the way home, more free drinks, sleeeeeeppppppppp til like noon.  Get up more food, buy more booze, nap/watch tv/minimal activity, eat again, get ready, someone else's house, have lots of free drinks, cab, bar, more drinks, wander home, more drinks and sleep.  Pretty much the routine every weekend, as you notice lots of drinks and food.  Now that I'm old and my body can't take all that, barely stay up til 9pm on Friday night after a long work week, maybe up at work on Saturday morn or some sort of project, then maybe dinner and drinks with friends.  Sunday relax, clean, do laundry and just catch up on things to begin another work week.
So in the fall lots of weekends consist of football.  Early rising to prepare food and specialty drinks for a day of great weather (hopefully) gathering with friends, and a little football.  Old days, it was jello shots, keg stands, shot gun beers and Bojangles tailgate special.  Now it's homemade dips, pigs in a blanket on real platters, bourbon, mimosas and not beast beer.
So if you are at the homemade dips/pigs in a blanket tailgate and you are shot gunning beers, slamming jello shots, you might want to think of perception.  This dawned on me this past weekend at the UNC/NCSU game....blending some new traditions and old traditions.  We made some food, but also brought along jello shots and we were at the mature tailgate, lots of married folks and couples (boooooo).  SO even though my friend Kim and I were having a great time and handing out jello shots, trying to spice up this party, plus walking around with a tray of jello shots is always a great way to start a conversation with cute dudes.  I wonder what the perception here was, were we the girls stuck in the past, the party girls, the forever going out girls..... because surely I am not.  I was in bed early the night before and def napped after the game.  But maybe there was some single guy there at the tailgate that thought, wow those girls are cute, but they may be a little wild slammin jello shots at 11am????  Pass.  So maybe I'm trying to change my ways and drink less, but it hits you faster, you have to be aware 2 strong bourbon drinks when you are 21 have a lot different effect on your 29 year old body. 

See I want people to see the real me.  The fun outgoing girl, who likes to go out and have fun, but not til 3am (except special occasions), just likes to hang with her friends, go out to dinner, watch movies, hang on the couch with her roomies, working herself out of debt, working hard at her job, but still makes time for the fun things in life.  So in the future if I'm looking to settle down and get away from the party girl image I have to be careful how I'm perceived.  And so should everyone else out there.  You think your married/coupled friends are going to set you up with one of their great guy friends if you are a serial dater, hating on dudes all the time, party hardy, doing drugs, sleeping with everyone in town, go to church on Sunday girl to repent your weekend.... that's a BIG NOPE!  So be yourself and if you want to go home at 9pm and only have one beer, well I say do it!!!!

*Pic's below are not me, but I'm sure I can say it could have been and probably most of my friends!!!

Free Food= Fatness

So I've been pondering over the years why I just keep gaining and gaining weight, as I am sure many of us do.  But I have figured out (for me anyway) why this occurs.  Something about delicious doughnuts, free Halloween candy, samples at Sam's or FREE LUNCH (and I don't mean like the poor kid kind in school)!  I mean the delicious, scrumptious lunches that we get everyday from reps at our office.  I will not specify my job (medical field) and I will not specify who brings us lunch (people who have things, that people in the medical field prescribe to people) but it is AWESOME.... I think about all the money I save at the grocery, I only go like once a month, I don't have to use gas to go out to lunch, I don't waste time in my kitchen wondering what to fix for the next day.  It's all there, prepared for me and just waiting for me to DIVE IN!!!  And boy do I and so do lots of people at work, refer to previous blog 'NOT OK'!  The problem is also waiting for me is the desserts, the garlic bread, the endless helpings...ugggg, somebody stop me.  Oh and especially when someone bring BBQ LODGE, forget it I'm as good as WORTHLESS the rest of the day.  So I'm working on a little thing called self-control, as of now it's a work in progress and I'm losing big time (and not in the weight department).

Then there are the dinners, which are at restaurants that I would not take myself to on a regular basis...EXPENSIVE.  I love a good night out and treating myself to dinner but $80 at Second Empire, I DON'T THINK SO.  But on someone else's tab it's a total different story, I'll try some appetizers, some martinis, splurge for the SURF n TURF and even get dessert.  Now you know good and well after eating all that food I sure as hell don't need dessert.  I always try and tell myself I'm going to take it home to my roommates to share, but let's be real I usually eat it.

So my goal from now on IS..... Try to cut back on all this good delicious FREE FOOD and just try and remember if it wasn't free would I still be eating this???
Maybe a thinner me will appear in the near FUTURE....only if I win the lottery and don't have to pay for my own food, would I give up free food.  So for now I'm a HAPPY FAT, FREE FOOD EATER!!!!!  Join the club, memberships available at www.i'mafatkid.com

Love the one you're with

Ok so there is an old saying, if you can't be with the one you love, then love the one you're with.  Well I tried this for a bit.  I decided to stop being so critical and if a guy asked me out or wanted to hang out, I would say YES every time.  You know where this got me, no where but pissed off.  Because every time these guys would do something stupid, which I knew they would because that is why I originally would say no in the first place, it just got on my nerves.  Yes I'm a bit of a bossy pants, but when we are riding around town (WHERE I'M FROM) and I give you directions because I HAVE TO WORK, just listen to me.  Life would be a lot happier if I just got home and to work on time, but instead you knew best about the town I have lived in MY WHOLE LIFE, so I was late and now pissed off that I ever considered hanging out with you.  And yes some of my friends called you a creeper, I was gonna give you the benefit of the doubt, you asked for my digits we went out and guess what you were a creeper, you should mostly trust your GF's and your instincts.  When you asked me what brand my clothes were and they were not up to your standards, I should have said no right then and there, instead of feeling under dressed and cheap everytime we went out.  And just because we have great convo's and text constantly and it seems to be going great, doesn't mean I should forget the long distance and believe that would work (in this case, love the one you with, but not often because of long distance).  All these are examples of guys I've said yes too, but mostly knew in the beginning it wasn't worth my time.

So ladies I know it's lonely out there and sometimes it's hard to believe that there is someone out there for you, but I truly believe if you keep having  hope and keep being the bestest girl you can be (and keep you legs closed) you will find THE GREAT GUY.

NOW for those of you who are currently in relationships with guys you really aren't that into, or dating multiple guys..... SHARE THE LOVE!!!  I mean you are not only holding yourself back from meeting someone great, but that maybe so-so girl is out there waiting to meet your mister "love the one your with".  I mean you could be at a bar, chatting up MR GREAT GUY lawyer hottie that wants you to have 1000 babies, botox, work out all day, and meet with your mommy groups.... and the convo is getting good, you are just about to agree to go on a date with him....WHAM, here comes your LTOYAW (love the one you are with) BF, all up in your convo, buying you drinks, trying to show this other guys he is cool and especially show him, you two are together.  So forget MR GREAT GUY lawyer, he ain't competing with this guy.  So see girl you are missing out on tons of hottie opportunities out there.  So explore life alone without LTOYAW bf, get out meet someone great and make great babies together.

Ok now to the girl who is dating multiple guys, don't think I forgot about you.  Let's just say that the odds in this town girls to guys is 4:1.  So for ever 1 guy, there is 4 girls.  So MISS multiple dater, you are dating 4 guys, well guess what that means you are messing it up for 16 other girls out there.  So help everyone get along, help all the lonely women out there be happy and cut some of those men folk loose.  I know it's hard to say NO to the free dinners, the foot rubs, the rides to your car when you cabbed it home, BUT just remember there is some awesome girl out there who thinks your MR so-so is her MR GREAT GUY and they will make awesome so-so babies and live happily ever after.  Which again brings me back to you being more available to find that MR. AWESOME, PERFECT, HOTTIE, GREAT guy that you are looking for.

So ladies don't settle with the so-so's, get out there and meet the MR Great guys.  I know they exist I know lots of them and I'm trying to find one of Mr. great guys FRIENDS that will be my AWESOME, PERFECT, HOTTIE, BABY DADDY!!!

And for now ADIOS to MR. creeper, Mr. Bad direction listener, Mr Snobby Pants, Mr. Stalker (see prev blog), Mr Long Distance..... I'm setting you free and sending you out into the world, because there is some girl out there with older creepy mad fetish, girl with no sense of direction, rich girl good clothes, needs a lot of attention girl, and a hometown girl who is waiting for you guys!

Be carefull what you wish for!

As the holiday season is upon us and lots of us are making Christmas wishes, wishing upon a star and waiting for all our dreams to come true, I just have to say be careful what you wish for.  So I always have known what a great awesome person I am and always wished that one day I would meet a guy who would realize that instantly.  He would fall in love with me and want to spend every minute together, happily ever after forever.  Ok so I met so called guy, he knew instantly he was in love with me.  Even called me later that night, met up with him the next night as well.  Just a casual hang out with good 'drunk' conversation and maybe a BOMO.  Went home with my girls, got another call later evening.  Got another call on Sunday on the way home, had a nice evening chat for a few hours.  Then text the next am at work to see how I was doing, this trend continued even though I said I can't text a work.  Then I got Flowers at work on day 4 to say I hope you feel better.  So this continued for a few days, then one night I was cooking dinner with my roommates and I had 5 text and two missed calls and the final one said please call me back, why are you mad?  FYI dudes girls have lives and don't keep clinging to their phone every 5 seconds waiting for you to call.  So when I say I have a life, I have a life and am probably busy doing something.  And when a girl tells you to chill, then relax and don't blow her up every 5 seconds, ok, ok.  Then came a night out with my girls at this event in Rocky Mount with our friends family, fun fundraiser event.  Yes it's public, but had he ever been before??  Nope I don't think so.  So he was tailgating at a football game earlier drunk by 11am, because yes I got two missed calls and two text before I even got out of the shower that morning.  I was a little frustrated and let it out on him....SO CHILLLLLLLLLL!!  Said I would call when I finished getting ready and was on my way, but no he couldn't wait that long and called me again...ahhhh, now I'm pissed.    So no response from me after that, UNTIL later that evening, when I see him walk by, like 4 times obviously looking for someone and that someone is me.  Finally he text me says he's in Rocky Mount, WOW shocker, I already saw you stalking me.  So by that time, my friends and I are into our drinks, so what the heck.  We all hang out have a great time.  I yet again tell him to chill and stop blowing me up all the time.  Also my friend Laura tells him the same thing, because if a girl's girlfriend tell you something, it's something probably said directly by the girl, SO LISTEN.  I'm way over it at this point, but my friends dad invites everyone back to hang at the house...WHAT, NO???  So then I can't be a total bi-otch and say no, so I just go with the flow, like I said the drinks are flowing.   Another BOMO, whoops and NIGHT OVER.  Next morning 9 am text...how are you feeling?  How the hell do you think I'm feeling after drinking all afternoon and all night til 3 am, barely have been to sleep and I hear his dumb ass text buzz next to my ear.  Oh but don't worry I don't respond and surprise a missed call from him 5 minutes later...ahhhhh.  So at this point SO OVER IT.  He then friends my sister on FB and my friends.....bad move, especially since I'm not answering his calls or text.  So finally I do the unthinkable and UNFRIEND him on Facebook.  He then refriends me on FB, like what do you think I accidentally UNFRIENDED him, NOPE.  So I guess he then gets the picture, and sends me a message that he gets the point after I unfriended him on FB that he would leave me alone....dundundun... of course that didn't happen.  He backs off for a bit, then messages me on FB this sap story.  I do feel bad and say I'm sorry, but make it short and sweet.  So that is pretty much the end.  That was one month ago and I have randomly gotten a text every week.  Seems like a really nice guy, just not the guy for me. 

As much as girls agonize over whether a guy will call or not and we talk about it with our friends, we do really like a little bit of linger and making us wait, wanting and wondering when you will call.  It's when it fades to every week, one week night and so forth that bores us and finally, hopefully we realize you are over us.  So until my next dating story, I will be careful what I wish for.
Star light, star bright, first star I see tonight, I wish I may, I wish I might, have the wish I wish tonight.  I wish to meet a fun cute guy, that will ask for my number, will call me in a few days, will actually ask me out on a date, will make the first move and will want to hang out and enjoy the same activities, if he happens to drive a truck or suv, has football tickets, loves the beach, likes to dance, likes Mike N Ikes, Reeses cups, action movies, romantic comedies, all seafood, grilling out with friends and BOURBON well then that is ok too!

Thanks guys, I'm back and promise to keep delivering.

Dating in your (almost) 30's

So I pretty much have decided that the older you get the harder it is to date and it pretty much sucks.  I remember watching all these movies and hearing older babysitters and friends just wait til you grow up, live the glamours life, go out with boys, have romantic dates...blah blah blah.  I'm pretty sure they just tell you those things so that you just don't kill yourself then and there.  Let's just say it's not easy to meet people and this coming from a pretty social person.  I would not say that I lack in the friendship department or in social gatherings department.  People say as you get older you get more picky, I do not agree with that.  I think you know more of what would work for you, you are a little more set in your ways and instead of meeting someone and growing together, you meet someone and have to make your separate lives BLEND.

So that's what I'm looking for, a BLENDER.  Yes I would like someone who's life would Blend easily with mine.  We would enjoy the same social things, for instance if you don't like going to football games, our lives probably won't blend well together.  But if you do like football and have season tickets and a parking pass, our lives would BLEND great together, I'm a helluva DIP maker.  I've even been on TV talking about my Dips ;)
Also if you don't like the beach, boats or being outside, NOT a BLENDER.  But beach house, sport fisher and unlimited gas card...BLENDING!!
I'm really kidding about the material things, but it is nice to have things in common and things to do on the weekends, I already watch enough Reality TV on my couch by myself, I want to get out and do things.

Also where do you meet so called BLENDER?  There is always the on-line option, but you could possible end up chopped up in a Blender, we don't want that.  I'm just a little skeptical of on-line dating, maybe it's old fashion and why I'm single, but I just feel like you can't really get someones personality from their profile.  Also like how many chats do you have to have before a guy asks you out?
Then there is bar scene, been there done that.  Had too many drinks, thought the man of my dreams was giving me a ride home and then calling me the next day for the most AWESOME date ever.. NOT.  Prince Charming, doesn't drink PBR and ride in Yellow Cabs :(
Then there is a blind date set up by friends, could be a good option.  But it makes me wonder what is the matter with this person that they can't meet someone they know or through someone they know??  But hey they could be thinking the same thing about me....so I would go for it!  Your friends really know you and if there is something your friend thinks you have in common, BESIDES you are both single and down on the dating scene, then it could be a good time.  At least maybe you have met another good friend out of it.

The friend ZONE, that is where I currently reside with all guys.  Not sure if it's me, do I throw the friend zone flag first or just don't get anywhere and by default we are in the friend zone.  I'm currently friends with almost everyone I have dated/hooked up with.  That's just how it works.  So my next order of business is to figure out how to get out of the friend zone and just into the ZONE!

So Blender if you are out there and want to get in my Zone, then holla :)  And by that I don't mean PRB and cab rides home!

And do I look like this girl from Something Borrowed, people tell me that all the time??

I'm back

Ok it's been a while, been really busy the past couple of weeks.
But last night I went to Jason Aldean Concert and it was soooo much fun.  A little bit from last year's concert.  It was Brooks and Dunn farewell tour and J. Aldean was opening up for them and it was THE HOTTEST DAY of the year!  We had a group of girls and our wonderful friend Liz had a hook-up to the tour mananger, so we got to go back stage to meet Brooks and Dunn during the meet and great, how we managed to look any sort of acceptable after that heat I don't know, but the musical beauty Gods were looking out for us.  Then we had like 10th row seats, dead smack in the middle IT WAS GREAT!!!  Then we got to go backstage after the concert and hang out on the bus with Jason Aldean, Kix Brooks and Ronnie Dunn... AWESOME.  There was a little bit of drama and too many drinks, which led Holden to TEARS (which rarely happens) and guess who comforted me... that's right JASON ALDEAN.  He came up to me and got on one knee and said "Holden (yep knew my name) please come back to party and have a good time, no one cares about what happened?"  Well something like that I totally lost if after he said HOLDEN.   So yep that was a great night thanks to Liz and her friend Brian!  We also go one of the tour buses to take us home!  We almost went to Nashville for CMA's which were next day... oh well.  Always a great memory.
No kneeling from Jason Aldean this year, but it was a great time.  I went with Jessica, Erin and Lindsay, we tailgated for a bit.  Walked around met up with friends, it was a little steamy, but not like that night in 2010.  Jason Aldean was the headline this year with Chris Young and Thompson Square.  They are all great acts and love all of them and their music.  We booty shook, we drank beers, we met boys, we saw old crushes, we had McDonald's, what more could a girl ask for.  A sweet southern night under the stars with her girlfriends!
Here are some pics from last year's epic concert, will get some up from this year when I get them!

2010 Grils at Brooks and Dunn

10th row, whoop whoop with Erin, Ashley and Liz

Girls with Brooks and Dunn!

2011 Jason Aldean with Lindsay and Erin



2011 J.A. with Jessica and Erin



Irene

Well I have been busy with work and pretty boring in life, so sorry for the two week delay.  Just haven't been feeling like writing.
Don't really have much to say today either.  We just had a hurricane over the weekend IRENE.  She did lots of damage around NC and other parts of the east coast.  I'm glad all my friends and family are safe and praying for those who had damage during the storm.
I personally didn't have any damage, just some limbs on our roof and on my car, but all is ok.  Here are some pic's that I saw on WRAL that are pretty bad.




Cedar Island, Shrimp Boat in street



Triple S Marina Neighborhood @ AB

Beaufort County, Pamilco Sound

Colerian Beach-Albemarle Sound, north of Plymouth

Hwy 12 Hatteras

New Bern Mall

Triple S Marina neighborhood

What we learn from Liftetime Movies

So it's a rainy day and my sister and I were talking about things people do on rainy days.  I was trying to come up with a new blog and she suggested what boys do on a rainy day vs what girls do.... and I said that was too easy.  Video games vs Lifetime movies, then it hit me.  Who doesn't love a good lifetime movie, who has NEVER seen one, who doesn't love Tori Spelling better on lifetime and all the other has beens that tell those teenage stories of romance, teenage pregnancy, death, broken hearts, and lost friends.
So what exactly have we learned from Lifetime?

1. You will always find love in the most unexpected places.  Like in 12 men of Christmas when you have to relocate from NYC to Montana and decide to write story about the search and rescue men and help them raise money, you couldn't help but fall in love with one of the hot rescue man who is against the idea from the start.  Where do these men exist in the real world, guess I need to step out of my comfort zone.

2. If you are a teen and you become pregnant, everyone will find out.  You no longer can pass off the baby as your moms or your older sisters.  So just fess up to it, people are more accepting these days.  Also if you give your child up for adoption like in A child lost forever, don't go looking for them.  There is always trouble that happens when you go looking for your lost child.

3.  The wrongly are often accused.  More than likely the wrong person will go to jail.  They will serve time and then they will come after you.  So be ware and if there happens to be a fluke prison incident which required plastic surgery, you will never see her coming after you, like in A Face to die for, starring the one and only Yasmeen Bleeth.

4. You never get anywhere on time.  You are trying to make a flight to your wedding and get stranded in the airport on Christmas eve and decide to take a cab that turns into an adventure, like in A Fare to Remember.  Whenever you get stranded in Lifetime movies you always meet someone interesting that usually will take you on some sort of journey, so just go with it.

5. Finally if you "hook up" with someone under age, you will be caught.  If you are a teacher, babysitter or coach you will lose your job and be condemned in the public eye, just like in All-American Girl; Mary Kay LeTourneau  Or if you are the babysitter and the dad comes onto you, don't do it, like in The Babysitter's Seduction. So remember 18 to party, 21 to drink!

So enjoy a rainy day on the couch and catch up on all our favorite Lifetime Movies.

My Wedding Day Rap

So today I just felt like writing a rap.  I actually wrote two.... one for my potential wedding day or just a brides version on her wedding day.  And the other for my sisters birthday, which I will reveal later after her b-day.


To the tune of It's Getting Hot in here, by Nelly

I was like good gracious flowers bodacious

Uh, it’s spacious, tryin to show patience

Lookin for the right time to make my move

Waitin for the right time to see my groom

Then I’m walking, no talking

Oh me and the rest of my bridesmaids

Check it, got it finished up with the ring trade

Country Club, outside, people are feedin

No dancin’, people eating and  glancin

I need you to get up up on the dance floor

Give these guest what they came here for

This bride is bustin loose, she’s shaking it just for you (ah, ah)

 Look here comes the groom, who knows what they’re gonna do

I Said

We tied the Knot in here

Goodbye to all your hoes

We are man and wife, I wanna take your clothes off?


Oh
Let it hang all out

Why you a bartender if you ain’t poppin bottles

Get these guest drunk and make them waddle

I wanna see them have fun and go full throttle

This bride is down, do some shots, give me a bottle

Get on the dancefloor, break down and worm it

MC Hammer, the duggie, it’s time to move it

Grocery cart, get out and push it

We’re all white and we can do it

Warm, sweatin hot up in this joint

Vodka shots, everyone at this point

You married a winner so you can’t lose

I’ll show you things on our honeymoon

Let’s break it down, like we’re home alone

I’ll grind up on you, like we’re gonna bone

Planning this wedding and all did all we could

Like “I think we done real good”

I Said

We tied the Knot in here

Goodbye to all your hoes

We are man and wife, I wanna take your clothes off?

I Said

We tied the Knot in here

Goodbye to all your hoes

We are man and wife, I wanna take your clothes off?

(nelly let it hang all out)
Mix a little bit a ah, ah
With a little bit a ah, ah
(nelly let it just fall out)
Give a little bit a ah, ah
With a little bit a ah, ah
(nelly let it hang all out)
With a little bit a ah, ah
And a sprinkle a that ah, ah
(nelly let it just fall out)
I like it when ya ah, ah
Girl, Baby make it ah, ah

Believe it, we’re leaving

Throw some rice and we’re headed out (what)

Honeymoon, en route

We gotta go do it

Extra, extra eh, spread the news (check it)

We are hitched and there’s no more blues

We’ll come back with some bomb ass tan lines

Now all the girls know The BOY is MINE

I Said

We tied the Knot in here

Goodbye to all your hoes

We are man and wife, I wanna take your clothes off?

(Chorus x 4)

Get Glittered

So I got a little text the other day that said you wanna go to the Ke$ha concert for FREE.  Well hell yeah, I'll go anywhere for FREE.  Plus I need to stop being a loser and laying on my couch all the time.  So Lindsay and I got together along with Ashley, Alex and Drew and made our way to Ke$sha concert on Tuesday night.  I thought for sure I can't go to this thing sober, so I drank a few beers, put on some glitter and a ridiculous outfit and headed out.  A,A and D were already there, so when we arrived the place was packed.  I guess maybe I haven't been to a weirdo pop icon concert in a while... I mean everyone...EVERYONE from 7 years old to 70 years old was dressed up.  I have never seen so much glitter in my life, there will be Glitter in Raleigh Amphitheater FOREVER.  There were some girls who had on glitter body paste, yes they had glitter plastered all over their bodies from head to toe.  There were some neon yellow sports bra's with shorts/skirts/fish nets/combat boots.  I wish I could have taken pictures of the madness that ensued around me.  Lindsay probably thought I was drunk, but I was just in utter shock of what was happening around me and oh the SCREAMS....or shrills is probably more like it.  Constant screaming, it was GREAT. 

 

We were totally G-ma's and got a spot next to the misting tent where there was plenty of room to hang out and a railing to even lean against.  There was some great drunk moves from others that took place in the misting tent... a girl with a rainbow striped tube top dress who kept kicking her legs over her head and who turned to Lindsay and I and said OMG it's Ke$sha, I said yes and nice to meet you.  Although I'm pretty sure Ke$sha would have said Yeah, and haha you are hammered.  It was pretty funny.  Also a guy in front on us with straight legged black jeans and a neon tank top, dancing his ASS off.... you GO BOY!  He had some serious moves.  Also saw a black guy with really tight bermuda shorts and tank with GOLD SHOES.... I said look MICHAEL JOHNSON...haha.  Because those are two things that don't go together are Ke$ha and Olympic Track and Field Star Michael Johnson although in some way they both like shinny things.  SOOOOOO it was sooo much fun and I realized I LOVE Ke$ha, so if anyone would like to burn me a CD of hers that would be great.  Her songs are intense and somewhat man hate-ish, which is awesome.  I love Grow a Pair and the fact that one of her back up dancers was dressed like a PEAR and the other like PENIS, pure entertainment.  Thought I would leave you with some of the Lyrics...  peace out people and get your GLITTER on and spread is all over the world.

When we fell in love you made my heart drop
And you had me thinking 'bout you nonstop
But you cry 'bout this and whine about that
When you grow a pear, you can call me back
Yeah I think you're hot; I think your alright
But you're acting like a chick all the time
You were cool and now you're not just like that
When you grow a pear, you can call me back

When I first met you panties droppin'
Everytime I saw you it was on and
One day you asked if we could just talk
And that's the reason why I'm walkin'
If I am honest, I'm just not hooked on your phonics
I'm not trying to be rude or crude
I just wanted one thing from you
And you got confused

When you grow a pear, you can call me back (x5)

And no, I don't want to see your mangina



More Glitter and DT Raleigh









Glitter Cannon and Neon Tank





Jersey Time

Ok Folks so my fav Jersey Shore kids are back in the house, or rather back in ITALY!!!  Wow and are they proving to be more idiotic than ever.  I was so excited that they were back, I poofed my hair and in preparation for the new season premier. 
So we start off with the same old same old, seeing everyone talking on the phone and making plans for their Italian trip.  All the guys are going to meet at Vinny's house, because of course we couldn't go through a season without Vinny's mom making a HUGE meal!!  Please Please invite me to your house for dinner Vinny, all that food looks so awesome, but maybe next summer after I'm off this bridesmaid diet.  All the girls head over to Snooker's house.  Do all these people still live with their parents except Ronnie, because all their parents help them pack!  I would think as much as MTV is paying them they could afford their own place. 
And just to start the new season I would like to give myself a Jersey Shore nickname and since Snookie is my favorite I would like to be now known as Hookie... that's a combo of Holden and Snookie!  Ok sounds like I would fit in great at the Jersey Shore, Myrtle Beach or Hollywood Blvd with that name.  So Hookie it is, I mean because I like to skip school.....

Ok first lets address the changes...
-WHO IS JWOWW?... I mean she looks completely different, she has lost lots of weight, gotten a nose job and possibly botox, or her face just looks weird because she is soooo skinny. 
-Snookie lost weight, but we all know because she has been talking about it in all the magazines and all over TV.  She looks good, we have Snookie first season back in the house, with some blonde extensions underneath.
-Deena has lost weight and maybe toned up as well....if she would just follow in JWOWW's footsteps and get a nose job, she would be good to go....or DTF.
-Sammi sweetheart, I'm gonna try and like you this season, but you were so whinny the 3 season's before your chances might have been blown.  You have put on some lb's since Jersey, and your boobs look bigger, but I think it's just a push-up bra, no enhancement.  So lay off the Italian Ice's...haha
-Boys... you look the same!  Pauly D my FAV!!!
So the girls vs guys begin, they both want to get there first so they can get the better rooms.  And of course the guys get there first and there is no elevator and they each have like 5 suitcases except Situation who has like 9 and Snookers who has like 10.  I was very surprised that Pauly D and the rest of the cast did get adaptors for their hair appliances, straighteners and blow dryers, so either someone told them or they found it on the Internet aimlessly googling.  Or perhaps Pauly D learned from Britney Spears (she is sooo international) and he is DJ-ing on her TOUR!  I might just go see her in concert for that reason, PAULY D!

Shocker the girls get lost the first day and go back to the house, they decide not to eat, but to go to the gym.  NO FOOD might be the answer as to why they are all so skinny....Sammie you should get on that plan.  Snookers shows us her work out routine around the house and Pauly D says she looks like she is having sex with herself....haha.  He just has the best lines, without trying.  Then we are gearing up for a night out, wow it's such a process to get ready they must start at like 6pm to be ready to go by 12pm.  The voltage difference with the adaptors really puts a bump in this whole process and I'm not talking about the one on Snookie's head.  They finally figure out the straightener will only work in the Kitchen outlet.... gross burnt hair all over your kitchen.
We learn how to say "Cabs are here" in Italian from Vinny who has been studying the language and learning lots of dirty things from uncle Nino, which I'm sure will NOT work on Italian girls.  We'll just have to see.
Situation tries to make out with Snookie, but she REJECTS him because she has a boyfriend and is happy and good for her.  SIT you are a douchebag, just let the poor girl have a Gorilla Juice Head Boyfriend for a few episodes, that is all she has been looking for since DAY 1, SEASON 1!!!   Don't worry the PREVIEWS show us that Sit gets what is coming to him....Bamb, thanks RON!  Maybe you will actually bring something to this season besides tears :(
So all in all a good episode, had some dumb comments, dumb moments, good previews.  Also did anyone else notice that no one really talked or hung out with SIT, I think they are all "OVER HIM".... he is just there to stir up DRAMA!!!   Otherwise, no one cares if he is there..
So tune in to my Fav show Thurs nights 10pm and watch the amazingness that unfolds.  I would've love to had a video camera at Myrtle Beach back in the day, we would have put these Jersey Shore kids to shame!  Maybe that will be my next adventure... stay tuned for the next episode of Myrtle Beach Days....starring Hookie, the tanned up country girl from Johnston County, making her way to the Grand Strand at Myrtle Beach, to meet boys, go to wild parties and dance (not to house music).
Happy Weekend Ya'll :)

Me and my girl Snookie..... TWINS!