Love the one you're with

Ok so there is an old saying, if you can't be with the one you love, then love the one you're with.  Well I tried this for a bit.  I decided to stop being so critical and if a guy asked me out or wanted to hang out, I would say YES every time.  You know where this got me, no where but pissed off.  Because every time these guys would do something stupid, which I knew they would because that is why I originally would say no in the first place, it just got on my nerves.  Yes I'm a bit of a bossy pants, but when we are riding around town (WHERE I'M FROM) and I give you directions because I HAVE TO WORK, just listen to me.  Life would be a lot happier if I just got home and to work on time, but instead you knew best about the town I have lived in MY WHOLE LIFE, so I was late and now pissed off that I ever considered hanging out with you.  And yes some of my friends called you a creeper, I was gonna give you the benefit of the doubt, you asked for my digits we went out and guess what you were a creeper, you should mostly trust your GF's and your instincts.  When you asked me what brand my clothes were and they were not up to your standards, I should have said no right then and there, instead of feeling under dressed and cheap everytime we went out.  And just because we have great convo's and text constantly and it seems to be going great, doesn't mean I should forget the long distance and believe that would work (in this case, love the one you with, but not often because of long distance).  All these are examples of guys I've said yes too, but mostly knew in the beginning it wasn't worth my time.

So ladies I know it's lonely out there and sometimes it's hard to believe that there is someone out there for you, but I truly believe if you keep having  hope and keep being the bestest girl you can be (and keep you legs closed) you will find THE GREAT GUY.

NOW for those of you who are currently in relationships with guys you really aren't that into, or dating multiple guys..... SHARE THE LOVE!!!  I mean you are not only holding yourself back from meeting someone great, but that maybe so-so girl is out there waiting to meet your mister "love the one your with".  I mean you could be at a bar, chatting up MR GREAT GUY lawyer hottie that wants you to have 1000 babies, botox, work out all day, and meet with your mommy groups.... and the convo is getting good, you are just about to agree to go on a date with him....WHAM, here comes your LTOYAW (love the one you are with) BF, all up in your convo, buying you drinks, trying to show this other guys he is cool and especially show him, you two are together.  So forget MR GREAT GUY lawyer, he ain't competing with this guy.  So see girl you are missing out on tons of hottie opportunities out there.  So explore life alone without LTOYAW bf, get out meet someone great and make great babies together.

Ok now to the girl who is dating multiple guys, don't think I forgot about you.  Let's just say that the odds in this town girls to guys is 4:1.  So for ever 1 guy, there is 4 girls.  So MISS multiple dater, you are dating 4 guys, well guess what that means you are messing it up for 16 other girls out there.  So help everyone get along, help all the lonely women out there be happy and cut some of those men folk loose.  I know it's hard to say NO to the free dinners, the foot rubs, the rides to your car when you cabbed it home, BUT just remember there is some awesome girl out there who thinks your MR so-so is her MR GREAT GUY and they will make awesome so-so babies and live happily ever after.  Which again brings me back to you being more available to find that MR. AWESOME, PERFECT, HOTTIE, GREAT guy that you are looking for.

So ladies don't settle with the so-so's, get out there and meet the MR Great guys.  I know they exist I know lots of them and I'm trying to find one of Mr. great guys FRIENDS that will be my AWESOME, PERFECT, HOTTIE, BABY DADDY!!!

And for now ADIOS to MR. creeper, Mr. Bad direction listener, Mr Snobby Pants, Mr. Stalker (see prev blog), Mr Long Distance..... I'm setting you free and sending you out into the world, because there is some girl out there with older creepy mad fetish, girl with no sense of direction, rich girl good clothes, needs a lot of attention girl, and a hometown girl who is waiting for you guys!

Be carefull what you wish for!

As the holiday season is upon us and lots of us are making Christmas wishes, wishing upon a star and waiting for all our dreams to come true, I just have to say be careful what you wish for.  So I always have known what a great awesome person I am and always wished that one day I would meet a guy who would realize that instantly.  He would fall in love with me and want to spend every minute together, happily ever after forever.  Ok so I met so called guy, he knew instantly he was in love with me.  Even called me later that night, met up with him the next night as well.  Just a casual hang out with good 'drunk' conversation and maybe a BOMO.  Went home with my girls, got another call later evening.  Got another call on Sunday on the way home, had a nice evening chat for a few hours.  Then text the next am at work to see how I was doing, this trend continued even though I said I can't text a work.  Then I got Flowers at work on day 4 to say I hope you feel better.  So this continued for a few days, then one night I was cooking dinner with my roommates and I had 5 text and two missed calls and the final one said please call me back, why are you mad?  FYI dudes girls have lives and don't keep clinging to their phone every 5 seconds waiting for you to call.  So when I say I have a life, I have a life and am probably busy doing something.  And when a girl tells you to chill, then relax and don't blow her up every 5 seconds, ok, ok.  Then came a night out with my girls at this event in Rocky Mount with our friends family, fun fundraiser event.  Yes it's public, but had he ever been before??  Nope I don't think so.  So he was tailgating at a football game earlier drunk by 11am, because yes I got two missed calls and two text before I even got out of the shower that morning.  I was a little frustrated and let it out on him....SO CHILLLLLLLLLL!!  Said I would call when I finished getting ready and was on my way, but no he couldn't wait that long and called me again...ahhhh, now I'm pissed.    So no response from me after that, UNTIL later that evening, when I see him walk by, like 4 times obviously looking for someone and that someone is me.  Finally he text me says he's in Rocky Mount, WOW shocker, I already saw you stalking me.  So by that time, my friends and I are into our drinks, so what the heck.  We all hang out have a great time.  I yet again tell him to chill and stop blowing me up all the time.  Also my friend Laura tells him the same thing, because if a girl's girlfriend tell you something, it's something probably said directly by the girl, SO LISTEN.  I'm way over it at this point, but my friends dad invites everyone back to hang at the house...WHAT, NO???  So then I can't be a total bi-otch and say no, so I just go with the flow, like I said the drinks are flowing.   Another BOMO, whoops and NIGHT OVER.  Next morning 9 am text...how are you feeling?  How the hell do you think I'm feeling after drinking all afternoon and all night til 3 am, barely have been to sleep and I hear his dumb ass text buzz next to my ear.  Oh but don't worry I don't respond and surprise a missed call from him 5 minutes later...ahhhhh.  So at this point SO OVER IT.  He then friends my sister on FB and my friends.....bad move, especially since I'm not answering his calls or text.  So finally I do the unthinkable and UNFRIEND him on Facebook.  He then refriends me on FB, like what do you think I accidentally UNFRIENDED him, NOPE.  So I guess he then gets the picture, and sends me a message that he gets the point after I unfriended him on FB that he would leave me alone....dundundun... of course that didn't happen.  He backs off for a bit, then messages me on FB this sap story.  I do feel bad and say I'm sorry, but make it short and sweet.  So that is pretty much the end.  That was one month ago and I have randomly gotten a text every week.  Seems like a really nice guy, just not the guy for me. 

As much as girls agonize over whether a guy will call or not and we talk about it with our friends, we do really like a little bit of linger and making us wait, wanting and wondering when you will call.  It's when it fades to every week, one week night and so forth that bores us and finally, hopefully we realize you are over us.  So until my next dating story, I will be careful what I wish for.
Star light, star bright, first star I see tonight, I wish I may, I wish I might, have the wish I wish tonight.  I wish to meet a fun cute guy, that will ask for my number, will call me in a few days, will actually ask me out on a date, will make the first move and will want to hang out and enjoy the same activities, if he happens to drive a truck or suv, has football tickets, loves the beach, likes to dance, likes Mike N Ikes, Reeses cups, action movies, romantic comedies, all seafood, grilling out with friends and BOURBON well then that is ok too!

Thanks guys, I'm back and promise to keep delivering.